Hindu-Muslim inter religious marriages ( 1 )

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What is presented here, in this post, is based on what I read on the net in the past, about, 15 months. Of course this will not make any difference to such people (Hindu girls or Non Muslim girls) in such circumstances already; after all who has time these days to inquire about anything objectively. Or more importantly I am not questioning any body’s freedom esp.women to take decisions regarding their life. This post is like a gentle warning about Islam. So, if some fiery Hindu feminist woman comes across this post, cool your self before you comment, if you feel like, and share your opinion.

These days, we just keep making our life decisions based on one minute digital bytes we keep hearing from media. Or influenced by Bollywood which is not very different from Muslim mafia, but nevertheless glorified by media shamelessly; then media itself has lost its value. Many journos working in media can not even distinguish western-ism from modernism. It can not even distinguish good from evil.

Right now, the emphasis and views of this national media and also enlightened opinion is such that Hindus and all Non Muslims should give up (or sacrifice) their cultural identities for larger good of country and they also should not object to special privileges to Muslims and their culture even if later tend to be fascist in nature. The yardstick being employed to measure the tolerance of societies, every where, is about tolerating anachronistic Islamic beliefs and practices and its heinous political agenda and its fascist nature; because it is solely Muslims who are having difficulty with integrating with rest of humanity. But how can they integrate with others when they believe in that they are superior to others and they should subjugate every other, as suggested by their sacred word of Allah, Koran?

Islam is a closed system; this is mentioned here many times. Muslim men can marry Non Muslim women but Muslim women can not marry Non Muslim men. It will not be easy to adjust once their beloved says Allah and his unethical Prophet and their dogma are above everything, esp. a kafir woman. At this point, it might be too late to return.

Every rule and belief in Islam is about advancing their cause (expansion) at the expanse of others and their cultures. Islamic system is a parasite on human civilization (others) whether Muslims are in minority or majority.

But out of ignorance of Islam or influenced by corrupt media and its culture of propagating immorality and liberalism, meaning absence of morals, for Hindus it is about completely distancing from their culture and civilization, some Non Muslim women believing in idealistic vision of love and jump in to marriages with Muslim male potential zombies. Some women recover and some do not.What I read is that, not easy to write, most Hindu women in this situation start thinking like this: all religions are same. One woman even said that Islam is also a religion; so she converted and was suffering (you will read this from below). One said she also studied a bit of Islam and she felt that it is like every other religion. When confronted by a guy, actually a Muslim, she said there are many translations and interpretations. When people want to find reasons to suit their ‘what they wanted to believe’ belief, they can always find them.

Well, all religions are same? Look at the ignorance. Islam does not even recognize other religions; it abrogates and is supposed to subjugate and destroy other religions. Unless some people experience directly, they will never understand.

Below are the two cases I came across from two forums; sukhdukh.com and telugupeople.com.

Case 1. (Read the full article from here. Please read the comments and follow up.)

This is my experience in my life. I wanted say to every girl who wanted to marry a Muslim man to think twice before marry. Please, if you are involved with one of these guys think twice –Don’t just jump like me. I’m not saying all other religion men are good … there are good and bad in all religions. This is about my life with a Muslim hub.

I know after reading my article, many muslims or others may argue with me saying that this is not in all families or we are very royal and broad minded bla bla bla… who cares! What ever you are to the outer world……… you are always same inside!. Or 90% of them are like this! And this is very TRUE! I don’t want to listen your lectures!

Looking back to my college days, I first met this guy, who was very charming, and full of promises (which are of course all lies). I felt that yes… he is the one for me. I almost argued and lost every thing for him. I ignored my family’s pain and troubles I was giving them. All I had in my mind was love and love. To marry him, I even threatened my parents, and lot more which cannot be put in words. Emotions played a major role and my parents kept quit since I were a major. He converted me to Islam, giving me a new name, saying it’s the important thing to get the support or affection of his family.

I did that since he promised me that it will remain only on papers and will never affect me personally. (Lie again). Then the marriage, was very simple with few friends. I along with my some friends sat in a room, with all giggles and excited when a man came in and made me say “khubool hain” 3 times, and gave me some papers to sign and that’s it, he said Mubarak .. you got married. I said oh that’s all!! This is so easy and all my friends laughed. (There are no promises and nothing) that day.. I never ever thought about what I was doing.

Before I can relize I’ve already stepped into a cluster of thorns. The first two months were sweet. And then the real life started. My in-laws, first opposed and then they accepted since my husband has converted me to Islam. I started to do everything what they say just out of love for him. I started accepting my life as it came by. I have chosen this life and I decided to prove everyone that I didn’t do a mistake and wanted to be a good and faithful wife.

I started to accept them for what they are and finding the good in them and learn to love people who have nothing in common with me. My in-laws and husband gave a lot of book regarding Islam written in English. They started teachings about women and Islam, regulating me from what kind of food I should eat and what type of attire I should wear and what kind of people I should make friends with etc.

That was my first shock. I don’t have any choice. There is no request, everything is a command. I was ordered to cover my head and use a burkah when going out. It was so akward but still I kept quit. I were not allowed to do anything of my wish, coz Islam dose not allow a women to decide. Everything was done according to man’s wish. I cannot do this, I cannot do that, I cannot go alone anywhere. It was like a closed life in a free world. If we go to out on picnics, we cannot eat at good restaurants, since they belong to kafirs.
Though the hotel is very filthy and covered with flies and dirt, still we have to eat only at certain restaurants where they think they sell halaal meat. (they think that only these hotels have a Halaal meat) no matter how dirty they cook. Due to this I avoided going out. Slowly they ordered me to avoid my entire family, since they are kafirs? (A non Muslims) Today, I realize what a shameful act I have done.

As time passed my husband has become more inclined towards religion. He forgot his promises, his words. Says that women are born to serve men. The place of women is within four walls. They are not allowed to speak up. I never saw this side of him earlier. Men are allowed to do anything but not to be questioned. Some women never know where their men go and what they do outside.

Slowly he became jealous person and reads into any and all association with other men as suspicious. He is unable to understand that I gave up more for him and I would never cheat on him. I am now seeing that there are too many differences to overcome and allow for a peaceful existence. They are always commenting on others. Specially the festivals and attires of other cultures. He is cruel, demanding everything and abusive. It only brought me tears and sorrow. There is no respect for women.
Islam allows man to beat his wife. He can demand anything and she has to obey no matter in what conditions she is. Man can marry of his choice but women cannot. There are too many restrictions. I am now in a constant fear. I am scared to speak up. I know what he is capable of when he gets furious. I would only have courage to tell him all that if I was far enough from him and he could not physically reach me. I am terrified about the future.

He will put all sort of pressures on my kids to do things I do not approve of, I fear that he might take them away; He might hurt me or do some serious harm to me if I don’t agree with him. I want my kids to experience many good things in life, achieve as much as they possibly can and become confident, tolerant and considerate adults. I don’t think this will be possible. He demands that he is the one who decides about everything to do with them, but also demands that I confirm everything he says to them and never contradict him.

At some point all the family members are very radical. They are always commenting on other religions, though it makes me very outrageous I have no way except to keep quit. The only thing taught to kids from childhood is that this is the truest, purest and peace loving religion.. And at the same time justifying terrorism and jihad (killing of non Muslims). This religion which claims to be the truest of all, recites an Arabic Prayer (on hearing the death news of their religion member) called “Inna Lillahi Oa Inna Ilahi Rajeon” which means “Allah unhain jannat naseeb karay” and then they recite another Arabic prayer (upon hearing a death news of a Hindu) called Fee nari jahannama khalidin” Which means wishing him the eternal HELL!….. It continues.

Case 2. (This is more heart breaking and read from here for follow up.)

Hi im Hindu Brahmin Girl, before 3 years i got married with a Muslim guy..before marriage he told me convert into his religion..On that time i too got agreed and converted..but from the day one of our marriage life we are in troble because of religion, culture, and day today habits. His parents will smoke in home itself and all his brothers and sisters are uneducated..He is the only one who is earning..Already we got divorsed once but again we got re-married but now also we are having the same problem.i cant accept his religion and culture.But now we are having a girl kid.After having a kid also no problem is geting solved..Im finding there is no peace in my life..My family is totally against me..but my mom alone is talking to me..she is ready to take me back but she is putting one condition that i should get married with a Hindu guy..what i should do in this case..I love him a lot but he only gives more importance to his family only to my kid also he is not ready to do anything because of financial problem..his dad is bed return and his mom is not healthy one of his sister is married but staying with parents and another sister is unmarried, my husband is having 2 brothers and my husband isthe eldest one among everbody..One brother got married and having a kid but he is with out job..another one is studying in college..no earning person in home except my husband..that too his salary is not sufficient to run the whole family..in this case my mom is advising to come out from him as it is unsecured for my kid and myself in amy matter..my mom is indicating me that i will become alone in future..so please kindly tell which will be the correct decision for me.
Her reply to some suggestions from members of that site is as follows:
Thanks for responding..IM not having problem jus because my husband parents are sick the problem is i cant accept the culture what they are following…i cant forget my culture and involve in their culture..and for each and everything even in keeping name for my daughter we had a fight..From living style till food we are having problem..we very well know we are not having mutual understanding with each other jus we both are loving each other we are together but our thoughts differs a lot..I don ve any support from my family and their parents want me to study quran and namas which is not possible for me..they are saying me to wear bhurkha and my husband also wants these things from me..Even he is not calling my name also they ve kept a name for me as sherin and they are calling in that even my husband too..this makes me so much feel on my life and its very hard to accept for me..Knowing all this my mom is calling me back..im totaly in dilamo wat to do
Read the follow up or suggestions from the given link; some are really stupid. I strongly feel that their thinking can only be a product of education glorifying slavery and multiculturalism; some suggestions are really hostile to the sufferer.
I came across few more on the net and they are below (My comments are in italics):
1. hi all,i was a hindu girl who got married to amuslim guy 2 years ago.i dont suggest inter -relegious marriage to the people ,especially when one of the partner keeps a condition of conversion.when my boy friend first asked me to convert,i said i will not,and we broke up.But i could not forget him and came to a conclusion that i will convert after all all relegions are the same when it comes to the relationship with god.but i was wrong.it was painful going through it starting from changing my name to not wearing bindi.i lost my identity.i was feeling a loss. Then my husband started expecting me to do prayers.and frequently threating to divorce if i fail to accept islam.

so please dont think that things will get better after marriage if you convert.things will get worse.you are going to hurt your parents. I have hurt my parents in lot ways,by abandoning the name they gave me.by abandoning the relegion they gave me.

iam really sad.i dont know what is in store for me in the future but i dont encourage hindu/muslim girls to the partners of opposite relegion if they have to give up their identity. (Some people can never learn or try to be still politically correct and diplomatic even after suffering.)

2.(This one is a reply to above comment)

Sorry to sound harsh, but I was in the same situation a few years ago. I’m a Hindu woman who got married to a Muslim man and regardless of the success stories on here (three wrote about their success in the entire forum)(clearly, these are people who have worked extremely hard for their marriages to work and have been fortunate enough to have supportive partners), it does not always work. As with any relationship, there needs to be a lot of compromise and give and take. Unfortunately for me, I learnt that the hard way. He was unwilling to accompany me to Diwali celebrations, temple and even my sister�s wedding and other relatives because it was not �how Muslims do it�, yet I was expected to cover my hair and act like a proper Muslim girl and accompany him and his family to all his activities. But I was not a proper Muslim as I was brought up as a Hindu, this is the only faith I know and love and respect and it got to a point where I was constantly giving in and was not getting anything in return. It was all one sided so no wonder it ended in divorce!

I’m in such a happy place right now, I am now married to someone of my own religion-which is what it should have always have been and now have gorgeous twins

You need to ask yourself the question, if I convert to Islam because my bf’s insistence would I truly be happy? Will he do the same for me?

Marriage is not a joke, it should be taken seriously. (I am sure that she was unable to tie the ends, though she is lucky to have finished well. This kind of marriage only works if they are willing to submit too, not just to Allah and but also to her ‘loving’ husband.)

3.

Hi (name deleted), I wouldn’t say i’m that religious but he is to a certain extent. At 1st he said he wouldn’t want to change me but after speaking to some of his family members about me, he now tells me that i’d have to convert for our marriage to be accepted in Islam as i’m not a religion of the book. …… Thanks for the response. Don’t get me wrong, I realise all you say and i’m a very independent confident asian woman and I would want an equall relationship. My head tells me I should walk away but I just can’t control my heart. There’s no question of him converting and besides, he is religious and i’m not particularly so I wouldn’t ask him to convert to something I know little about. I am proud to be Indian though & don’t want to loose my identity so suppose I need to find the strength to walk away…. there seems to be no compromise in this.(Very proud to announce that she is not very religious, but her man is religious i.e. religious Muslim. The question here is if he is so religious why the hell he fell in love with a kafir that too a polytheist!  This is what usually happens; they will say no need of conversion then say for the sake of family. Others can not always be blamed for one’s suffering, they have to blame their stupidity too.)

Again, thanks for your response. The problem I have is that he says he wouldn’t want to change me and does respect me fror who I am it’s just our marriage wouldn’t be accepted in Islam if I didn’t convert – and that’s important to him. We’ve both tried to walk away and he knows he’s asking a lot but we keep ending up back in each others lives. I’m usually so strong minded but that’s what worries me…. I can’t seem to just use my head here….(Yeah, same confusion about being Jodhaa; after all we know so much about them, right. I will say damn these people for their stupidity. Nothing is known about what happened later to the woman who wrote above comment, but considering how intelligent they are, we need not guess.)

4. (skip this if you feel like. she says success, but has to convert then does not want to think about what she sacrificed because it might affect her relation, I just wonder about these ‘FREE’ woman. I am also searching, after reading her exp., for proper meanings of many words like success, love……)

wow… for those of you who are struggling to work things out, may God guide you to make the right choice for yourself.
i thought i’d share my own story here, it may help some of you. i come from a middle class hindu family; my parents are neither liberal nor conservative. i was raised in the US, where i had friends of all races and religions; my parents did not discriminate, and they raised me the same way.

my mother is pretty religious, and she taught me the Hindu religion; but from childhood, i was very curious about religion and God. before i was 13, i had already memorized many shlokas with meanings, and read the Bible as well. i would bring books on the Vedas from the library, just searching for answers, and one day i opened up the Quran as well. to be honest, i didn’t find the answer i was looking for, that one particular religion was the right one; but I just found myself gravitating towards the idea that all religions essentially preach about one Truth, one God. i became comfortable with that concept, and rather than get caught up in ritual of worship, I began to engage in just worship alone.

then i graduated from university and started work. My coworker was a pakistani muslim guy. our relationship progressed from initial mistrust, to grudging respect to tentative friendship to becoming inseparable partners at work and outside, until we realized one day that we were in love. he talked to me one day, telling me frankly that he liked me a lot and would like to marry me. he told me upfront that he realized this was an unusual situation, and he told me what he could compromise on and what he could not compromise on. i knew that he himself was not uber-religious, but he said that for us to get married, his parents would want me to convert. he told me that he would do whatever else it took to convince my parents. i thought about it, and i realized that this guy had all the qualities i had ever wanted in a husband. the conversion part troubled me a bit, but not too much as i already knew quite a bit about Islam, and I realized that i essentially had a monotheistic concept of God, and i wouldn’t be conflicted too much on this point. i said yes to him the next day, detailing a few conditions: that he would not require me to wear a veil, that he would agree to give neutral names to children (though they would be brought up Muslim) and that he would treat my parents with the same respect that I would give his.

from that point, we began to plan our strategy. he brought his sister to work and introduced me as his coworker and friend. she and i became good friends, and she invited me often to their home. so i got to know his family and extended family. he never told them that we were in a relationship, but he always spoke of me in a positive light. soon, everyone was telling him to propose to me, urging him to do so before he lost me to someone else! this is exactly what he wanted… if he had talked to his family directly about me, they could possibly have opposed him; but this way he ensured that not only did his family embrace his choice, but that i would be welcomed wholeheartedly and with respect into his family.

my parents were harder to convince. they kept saying things like, why should you have to convert, why can’t he? i reminded my mother that even though her kul-devta, customs, language, traditions, etc. were different from my father’s, after marriage, she did everything according to my father’s family traditions, even changed her name. i tried explaining to them logically, telling them that his family was not conservative, they were just like my parents, except muslim. but my folks would not budge.

8 years had passed and we had to take a stance. my parents had met him and liked him but objected on his religion and nationality. they threatened to disown me and never speak to me if i married him. finally as i was getting to be an old maid, they said that they wouldn’t give their blessings, but the only way out was for me to either break up with him or present them with a fait-accompli.

i got my answer. so we got married last year in a small nikah ceremony with only his family members and some of my friends present. after the marriage, i called my parents and told them the news. my father just said – we hate the sin, not the sinner. you will always be our daughter and we love you.

it has been almost a year to the wedding. i talk to my parents regularly. some days are tough, but for the most part, they speak to me normally. they were worried about what our relatives would say about my marriage, so they didn’t tell anyone til about 2 months ago. surprisingly, everyone took the news well, or atleast no one said anything mean to my parents. i guess many people figured out that since i was refusing to get married, there was some reason behind it. some of my nicer cousins sent congratulatory emails to me, and happily i am rebuilding my relationships with my family members. there are some people who are immature or just plain mean, but i have learnt to ignore them. after all, i have got what i wanted… i know i have to be patient and things will work out.

dating is certainly different from marriage, which comes with a lot of responsibility and requires maturity, patience and a cool head, especially in this situation. my inlaws are mostly nice and non-interfering types, but i’m still the new daughter-in-law and i know there are some people who compare me unfavourably and who watch my every move with a critical eye. my policy is to kill em with love (On some day she might say slavery; since she is not going to think about what she sacrificed she wanted to call it love.) .

in terms of adjustment, honestly i am the one who has done a great deal of adjustment. whether it’s language, food, culture, religion, whatever. but i know that if i weigh these things on a scale, i will become resentful and unhappy. (this is what I was talking about; look at how she is advising even others; may be typical Indian slave mentality or may be some people settle for little.) at the same time, my husband is very supportive of me, (of course he will be for some time because she can still divorce him and remarry some other. But after some years, she may not have that luxury while he has; he just has to go to Pakistan and pick a young girl. so do not take it for granted. ) and agrees to most of my demands. for example, i converted but refused to change my name officially – and he convinced his father on that point. he acknowledges the sacrifices i have made in our relationship and he makes it up to me in other ways. in a few months, we will have our wedding reception, and my family plans to attend this time 🙂 (of course they do. they are nice parents; for them their daughter counts always; much unlike Islam telling parents to kill such children.)

a couple of things i will say to the guys and girls who are contemplating a hindu-muslim marriage: lay the ground rules based on mutual respect (learn about mutual respect from her; she is an excellent example. In her sense conversion is mutual respect! geez, how dumb one could be.) from the start and do not break or change them. secondly, never ever convert just to get married, only convert if you truly believe in the religion you are converting into. (Finally she says she believes in Islam; now what? she has to hate every one? In due time she will be hating even her parents and calls them inferior and kafirs; Highly probable. Otherwise she is not a Muslim.)

i know it was a long read…but i hope it will be useful to some of you. wish you all the best with your relationships! (she says she has read Koran but I bet she has not. Or she must be having a non functioning or dead brain.)

5. (This is a must read.)

hi all,i have gone through most of the posts all i observe is most of the hindu girls here are just like me who have converted to islam to make their relationships work.

however for me the actual problems started after my conversion as i deeply studied islam to get better knowledge.Also my husband was very keen on me gaining more knowledge and faith. He always ridiculed hinduism infront of me but i never said anything coz i dont have sound knowledge of hinduism myself.

but however i was raised with good moral values.coming back to my story after conversion as i read more and more about islam i was disgusted coz i see a lot of voilence,sex and immorality especially in hadees including sahih hadees.so i stopped following them as relegious scriptures.this caused a lot of rift in our relationship as my husband believes that to be a muslim one has to follow both Quran and sahih hadees.

He threatened to divorce me a lot of times if i will not become a proper muslim.This husband of mine is the same guy who lied to me twice before marriage that i dont need to convert and he will accept me as what i am.My mistake was to trust his words.by the time i got so much deep in to the relationship he said i have to convert as the marriage will not be legal if not done according to islam. I decided to do research on islam before marraige as at that point i was so desperate to get married to him despite his lies.

My reason for forgiving him was even though he lied it was to win me back.i started my research on islam with Quran.Even though i never understood the concept od slaves and wars on unbelieversi liked the idea of one god.so i thought ok this is not bad and i said i will convert.

now again back to the story,my husband started forcing me to do prayers on time.if i miss any prayer he said a polythiest is alwyas a polythiest thats the reason why its told in quran to not to marry idolworshippers.

i got so frustrated that i decided to get separated from him.then he mellows down and for sometime he will not force me on anything.then after few days same story repeats.

Now as i stick to quran, i found out that even a lot of stuff in that is so biased and very unconvincing.so actually now i hate islam.

If i take relegion out of our lives i know that my husband and me will have very minimal problems,but this god of islam has made our lives hell with his absurd rules. (she grasped certain aspects of Islam but not every thing; this guy willfully lied and she expects him to become an apostate; it is more probable that he will be a Islamic martyr for finishing with 72 virgins.)

every now and then just becoz of relegion my husband says this relationship wont work.i dont know. i suggest hindu girls to check in detail the relegious teachings of your partner.if he is a secular type (Muslim being a secular?; one can ask a devil to be a god, it is a much better bargain.) and doesn’t ask you to covnert then go for it.but if they are asking you to convert then there begins your submission,and it goes on do the prayers on time,change yourname,be islamic in your behavious and so on..it will never end. so dont marry fantatic muslisms or for that matter fanatic hindus. (she reads koran and Islam and thinks that there is a fanatical version of Hinduism like Islam. I am getting tired of this and questioning myself ,’ do these girls have brain?’, like some one wrote in that forum. Once in a blog, owned by a modern Indian and Hindu girl, she has put up a post “what women want?”. Casually I commented that God knows, which I regretted immediately, and then I wrote that every one seeks some respect and more importantly understanding. And she deleted my comment and advised me never to comment again on her blog.)

Well, I could add four or five more to this list; but they are all same. But as I already said in the beginning of this article, they are free to take their decisions and we should respect their right; they are responsible for their own destiny. By making and supporting like a cage like control on women is inhuman and akin to going back to feudal age. And finally, I leave an article from faithfreedom.org which was put up for western women; but it also goes for every other Non Muslim woman; not a great one, then it is just a crash course. Then, knowing truth can not be a one minute sound byte or one simple post.

It is here. I will try to sum it up in a comment, later.

P.S. Some times even guys get caught. Read a tragic case from here.

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41 responses

  1. Hello u all….
    I m pari raj… i wanted to know… if one hindu boy marry with muslim girl then he is convert her or not..?

  2. Hi guys, i want to ask one question..? If hindu marriage with a muslim girl … then what he did, he convert her or not..?

  3. Hi All,

    I hope this blog is still active…:)

    Was reading all your posts and comments and so, wanted to share my personal experience and seek for your advice and suggestions on the below matter.

    So, here it goes…

    I just joined this company (the company I am currently working in) one year ago, I met him there , It was love at first sight (did not know what his name was, his religion was out of question as all I wanted was “him”)

    Few Days later my colleague introduced him to me … Then I came to know that my dream man, the person I always kept an eye on in the office hours was a muslim boy.
    I was a racist (feeling bad for what I was ), so I knew that this is nothing but infatuation. I started maintaining distance. Since he was a part of my office group, so we used to have lunch together and gradually without my knowing it, we became best of friends (now the racist in me was dying and love was taking the space).

    We unknowingly, were in a relationship . We decided that we will convince everyone at my place and his place and things will be normal then. The Hindu Muslim bawaal was small for us (maybe because we were in love ) I kept aside everything (my parents reaction, the compromises that we both will be making for each other etc) . The bond between us became strong with the passage of time. More than a couple we were best of friends.

    My parents are super religious and so are his, My mother did not knew about our relationship although she was aware of our friendship, but she never met him in person.
    I am 25 years old and as per my family I should get married before 26, so they started searching for a suitable groom for me. I took all this lightly , but to my shock they had found one and things were more than I had imagined, The boy’s family agreed to the roka (a ceremony before marriage) , when I came to know this , I panicked and started crying, My family asked me if I was hiding something, or If I were in a relationship with someone or If I liked someone (they had no issues with it )They wanted to meet the boy . I told my brother and my mother about my 6 months old relationship with this sweet Muslim guy in my office.

    *Sigh- I knew they will not agree and making them understand would be difficult (I was prepared ) things happened so quickly that I had to take a step and told them everything , their reaction shocked me(althogh I was aware of it) , my mother started crying , cursing the values that she had given me , my brother started arguing with me ,they started telling me the reactions of our so called relatives and society when they will hear the news, the reaction of the pados wali aunty – deko kaisi ladki hai, maa baap ki parwah nahi, mulli ban gai ladke ke liye , ku jane dia ise office , hawan karwao ghar mai kuch gadbad hai, He will convert you not now but years later, what about the children which religion will they follow, the same continued for atleast 2 days and at the end I had to loose my argument to them .(because my mother said -(hum tujse saare rishte tod dengay , mar jayegi tu humare liye , muh kala karwayegi).The boy was unaware of all of this .

    Our 6 months relationship came to an end in just 2 days. The boy started cursing me that I panicked and due to which it all ended. As it was all so early , we did not even decide what we will do, how we will break the news in front of our respective families, he was not professionally settled, jhe needs time , I should have kept my cool and should have told them about it , a year later when he will become something and could stand on his own feet (he is currently earning 30K pm) which is not sufficient for us – as per my parents. till then I should have denied for marriage and should have rejected the marriage proposals that were coming my way.

    Now, we have officially broken up, but still we chat , we cry , I curse myself for not handling the situation well. for not standing by him as promised , for not giving time to us , and specially to him . I am GUILTY every second that i pass.

    I need your suggestions as to what should we do ?? We love each other . He said he will never convert me , we will marry according to the special marriage act. Both religions will be equally respected, Children will be given both moral values and sanskar of both the religion, no burkha. May be all of the above are fake promises or may be true , I don’t know what god has written for both of us, All I know is we want everyone to be happy including both of us.

    Please suggest…

    Waiting for your valuable feedback and suggestions.

    Take care.

    1. adding to it :

      Q1. Should we continue talking to each other?
      Q2. should we secretly again date each other, will face the consequences together?
      Q3. Should we give up?

      I don’t want to get married to anyone except him, I was a religious person, now i don’t believe in God. I hate my family for doing this to me, for not understanding me . for not giving me a chance to prove that love is above religion.
      This pain within me is killing me day by day. I don’t want anyone.

  4. I m married to a muslim shia boy 2 years completed but still I m nt ready to convert my caste nd nt ready to be a islamic girl nd nt ready to leave hinduism nd my husbnd wants me to convert or to leave him m nt ready to leave my caste nd nt also ready to leave him my larents are also nt ready dat I shoul be a muslim girl nd hindiism.I love him sooo much plz help me tel me wht I should do wat is right for my future

    1. TAJUL ISLAM SARKAR | Reply

      Manisha Singh, You should have had a second thinking before marrying the muslim boy…If love is the most important element of your lives, then your religion should not bother you both…You must not leave your religion, as it is your personal choice..It is better to leave the person who eventually forces you to leave your own religion..

    2. Download “Understanding Muhammad” from internet. First read it yourself, then keep a copy somewhere so that your husband is likely to find it and read it out of curiosity. If he reads it, he will leave Islam. I don’t you if your husband can read English or not. Or you can directly challenge him politely that Muhammad, the founder of Islam, was not a true Prophet, and your husband should read that book. Entice him that if he could write back to Ali Sina and refute the accusations in the book against Muhammad, you will not only convert to Islam, but also make sure that your children also are raised as Muslims.

  5. TAJUL ISLAM SARKAR | Reply

    Dear owner of this blog,
    I am a muslim Indian guy…whatsoever you have written must have been true and based on real life experience…But remember one thing, the problem lies in male chauvinism (dominance)..Male always try to dominate the girls…It does not matter whether he is a hindu man or a muslim man…The majority of the muslims lead an orthodox sociological and moral life where they torture and oppress the women inside their houses…Girls are generally not allowed to go outside, they are neglected to be given education and priority…But religion Islam does not permit any man to do so…Most of the fake rules have been created by muslim men and even some scholars to prevail the dominance of the male over female..Remember it is man-made not the creation of Islam–Believe me, I have thoroughed Islamic religious books and scriptures and there I have found nothings wrong…may be some are best suited for an ideal situation, not realistic though they are not harmful but rather they are philanthropic by nature…In hindu society, girls have advanced a lot…they get education, they can choose their husbands, they go to offices, they can choose their professions, but remember that our hindu society, do also have many problems….Crime against women do occur in hindu society very frequently…Just don’t be biased and think, my dear ! You know, in any place of this world at any point of time female population is bigger than that of male population but this has an exception and that exception is our country (India)…India is a great country, I love it very much, but we, the Indians kill our female child (Female foeticide)…now what would you say….Do we really love girls? or think them as burden? Majority of the countrymen belong to hindu religion and they are killing female children so rampantly that the women population of our country is getting decreased day by day ! So, the real problem is not with Quran, Gita, Ramayana, Bible or zendabesta – but the real problem lies with the people who belong to these religious groups…they kill others in the name of religion and do many bad things in the name of religious books….So remember not hate any religion – rather you should hate bad and mischievous people of any religious group ! May Allah / Bhagwan / God / Wahe Guru bless you !

  6. Dear All
    Believe one God
    stop Idol Worship
    cover your body and head
    offer prayers 5 times
    observe fasting
    eat halal food
    give from what you have
    perform hazz and umrah if possible
    feed the poor
    Recite Quran
    The above said are the main things to follow in Islam. These are all good things which brings in discipline to your life. I am a Muslim woman who was once a Hindu. I am happily following these. Believe in the creator who created you and thank him every sec in your lives for this life. If you can’t thank your creator enough how can you be happy in your lives.

  7. @ All and Saeed,

    This blog is not for the purpose of showing Hinduism is great or good . Hinduism may be good or bad but it is not harmful, infact any religion, like Islam in terms of inciting hatred and violence towards other faiths.

    In no other faith we see this :

    Allah’s Apostle said: “I have been ordered (by Allah) to fight against the people until they testify that none has the right to be worshipped but Allah and that Muhammad is Allah’s Apostle, and offer the prayers perfectly and give the obligatory charity, so if they perform that, then they save their lives and property from me except for Islamic laws and then their reckoning (accounts) will be done by Allah.”

    (Hadith of Sahih Bukhari : Volume 1, Book 2, Number 25. )

    One needs a tutor to understand this above simple and plain passage ?

    It is not me nor Krithika, whoever she is, who are Hitler s and Laden s. IT IS Islam’s PROPHET . Probably, much worse .

    Saeed says it all depends on how one interprets their faith ?

    This suggestion is ridiculous .

    Every book suggests how it should be read and understood. If I am reading a comic book then I knew that it is a comic book . If I am reading science fiction then i knew it is science fiction.

    I do not interpret these books as the stories or books of Dracula.

    Koran in numerous passages says what it is and how it is plain, easy and simple to understand.

    Even then Saeed say that one needs a tutor to understand Koran ? Fine. Which Tafsir I should point you to ? I am sure you know that these tafsirs written by Muslim scholars who devoted their life to studying scriptures will give the context behind these verses and what they mean.

    Should we look in to such Tafsirs ?

    Or Saeed says that, like a moral coward, these Islamic scholars are not fit to be tutors ?

    Nevertheless, I will provide an example.

    Take the verse 2.193 :

    Your “Noble Koran” reads like this : ‘ And fight them until there is no more Fitnah (disbelief and worshipping of others along with Allah) and (all and every kind of) worship is for Allah (Alone). But if they cease, let there be no transgression except against Az-Zalimoon (the polytheists, and wrong-doers, etc.)’

    A great scholar of medieval times, IBN KATHIR, explains this verse as below :

    “Since Jihad involves killing and shedding the blood of men, Allah indicated that these men are committing disbelief in Allah, associating with Him (in the worship) and hindering from His path, and this is a much greater evil and more disastrous than killing. Abu Malik commented about what Allah said: And Al-Fitnah is worse than killing.) Meaning what you (disbelievers) are committing is much worse than killing.” Abu Al-`Aliyah, Mujahid, Sa`id bin Jubayr, `Ikrimah, Al-Hasan, Qatadah, Ad-Dahhak and Ar-Rabi` bin Anas said that what Allah said: (And Al-Fitnah is worse than killing.) “Shirk (polytheism) is worse than killing.””

    http://www.qtafsir.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=233

    Allah then commanded fighting the disbelievers when He said: (…until there is no more Fitnah) meaning, Shirk. This is the opinion of Ibn `Abbas, Abu Al-`Aliyah, Mujahid, Al-Hasan, Qatadah, Ar-Rabi`, Muqatil bin Hayyan, As-Suddi and Zayd bin Aslam.

    Allah’s statement: (…and the religion (all and every kind of worship) is for Allah (Alone).) means, `So that the religion of Allah becomes dominant above all other religions.’ It is reported in the Two Sahihs that Abu Musa Al-Ash`ari said: “The Prophet was asked, `O Allah’s Messenger! A man fights out of bravery, and another fights to show off, which of them fights in the cause of Allah’ The Prophet said:

    (He who fights so that Allah’s Word is superior, then he fights in Allah’s cause.) In addition, it is reported in the Two Sahihs:

    (I have been ordered (by Allah) to fight the people until they proclaim, `None has the right to be worshipped but Allah’. Whoever said it, then he will save his life and property from me, except for cases of the law, and their account will be with Allah.)

    http://www.qtafsir.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=231

    Now, one wants to look at what one scholar of modern times writes on this ? We do not need to go far. We can just look at (late) Abul Alal Maududi ….. He explains :

    ” Here the term fitnah is used in a different sense from the one in which it was used above (see verse 191). It is evident from the context that fitnah refers here to the state of affairs wherein the object of obedience is someone other than God. Hence the purpose of a believer’s fighting is that this fitnah should cease and obedience should be consecrated to God alone.

    An investigation of the usages of the word din (which occurs in this verse) reveals that the core of its meaning is obedience. In its technical usage, the word refers to that system of life which arises as a result of a person recognizing someone as his Lord and Sovereign and committing himself to following his commands and ordinances. This explanation of the word din makes it quite clear that when some human beings establish their godhead and absolute dominance over others, this state of affairs is one of fitnah. Islam seeks to put an end to this and replace it by a state of affairs in which people live in obedience to the laws of God alone.”

    Another famous scholar from India, Bulandshahri, writes this :

    “The worst of sins are Infidelity (Kufr) and Polytheism (shirk) which constitute rebellion against Allah, The Creator. To eradicate these, Muslims are required to wage war until there exists none of it in the world, and the only religion is that of Allah.”

    The simple meaning of this verse and from what these scholars are saying is that if Muslims are to fight until there is no disbelief in Islam then mere presence of disbelief in Islam is act of aggression on Muslims and Islam. So every war Muslims fight to impose their rule is always a defensive war.

    Forget about these texts and scriptures and lets see whats around us and ask ourselves this question of how many Muslim countries of 57 Islamic nations are secular in granting or giving equal rights to Non-Muslims ?

    Many of these Muslim nations spend billions of dollars for constructing mosques and Islamic centers in non-Muslim nations for converting non-Muslims to Islam, and at the same time they ban other faiths from proselytizing in their nations.

    This is not a simple coincidence. Its a simple case of Muslims staying true to what their scriptures are saying.

    Is there any one here who argues that all these Muslim countries are also misunderstanding or misinterpreting Koran and that they need a better tutor ?

    Same case with marriages. While Muslim men marry Non-Muslim women in countries like India and Western nations, but no Muslim country allows Muslim women marrying Non-Muslim men.

    Just point out if you find any Muslim woman in Pakistan or Bangladesh marrying any non-Muslim let alone a Hindu ?

    This simple representation of facts in our world is neither sobbing nor crying like this Muslim fanatic, Saeed, says. They are just facts which show the true nature of Islam and Muslims. The fact that Saeed refers to these as such shows his own mentality, a fanatic trying to fool others that he is not one.

    What people see about Indian Mujahideen or ISIS or Boko Haram or Al-Qaeda is one aspect of Islam. But what they fail to see is how those Muslim countries, considered as moderate, practice their faith. The purpose of these groups, stated above, is to make the whole world look like these Muslim nations i.e. where non-Muslims are subjugated and accorded a status of second class citizen.

    Terrorism and violence is not the end. They are means to make the world dominated and ruled by Islam. Violence inflicted by these groups is seen in isolation…….no wonder then that more such groups keep emerging.

    But Muslims can spread their faith using any means, that is what Jihad is all about….striving in the cause of Allah.

    When Muslims come face to face with what their faith is, what kind of person their prophet was and what kind of teachings Koran has in it, they are taken aback. Its only fanatics like Saeed who try to justify ‘ISLAM’ and rationalize all their hatred against others by writing about others or saying ‘few terrorists’ or ‘those misinterpretations’.

  8. fuck islam n fuck hinduism. Love humanism.

  9. hello
    i love a muslim guy…but after reading all post .i m getting confused..but in my case he didnt tell me or forced me too change my religion but we can go to the 3rd religion.and no any condition for my attire . i can wear jeans or suits or sckirts and can eat of my choice….but still getting confused..what to do ..plz suggest.

    1. Krithika Ayyagari | Reply

      Hey Akansha,

      “but in my case he didn’t tell me or forced me too change my religion but we can go to the 3rd religion.and no any condition ….” exactly,that is how these so called ‘love stories’ start.Well but,if you are confused,you can help yourself,how??
      1)Read Koran to know about Islam and Muhammad.(hey,have you heard about love jihad??)
      2)Go through this blog to find more about the real face of Islam.
      3)Don’t follow your heart,follow your mind…..facts are at your desk,you just have to understand and take the right decision………..nothing is confusing 🙂

      sincerely,
      Krithika

      1. Hi All,

        I hope this blog is still active…:)

        Was reading all your posts and comments and so, wanted to share my personal experience and seek for your advice and suggestions on the below matter.

        So, here it goes…

        I just joined this company (the company I am currently working in) one year ago, I met him there , It was love at first sight (did not know what his name was, his religion was out of question as all I wanted was “him”)

        Few Days later my colleague introduced him to me … Then I came to know that my dream man, the person I always kept an eye on in the office hours was a muslim boy.
        I was a racist (feeling bad for what I was ), so I knew that this is nothing but infatuation. I started maintaining distance. Since he was a part of my office group, so we used to have lunch together and gradually without my knowing it, we became best of friends (now the racist in me was dying and love was taking the space).

        We unknowingly, were in a relationship . We decided that we will convince everyone at my place and his place and things will be normal then. The Hindu Muslim bawaal was small for us (maybe because we were in love ) I kept aside everything (my parents reaction, the compromises that we both will be making for each other etc) . The bond between us became strong with the passage of time. More than a couple we were best of friends.

        My parents are super religious and so are his, My mother did not knew about our relationship although she was aware of our friendship, but she never met him in person.
        I am 25 years old and as per my family I should get married before 26, so they started searching for a suitable groom for me. I took all this lightly , but to my shock they had found one and things were more than I had imagined, The boy’s family agreed to the roka (a ceremony before marriage) , when I came to know this , I panicked and started crying, My family asked me if I was hiding something, or If I were in a relationship with someone or If I liked someone (they had no issues with it )They wanted to meet the boy . I told my brother and my mother about my 6 months old relationship with this sweet Muslim guy in my office.

        *Sigh- I knew they will not agree and making them understand would be difficult (I was prepared ) things happened so quickly that I had to take a step and told them everything , their reaction shocked me(althogh I was aware of it) , my mother started crying , cursing the values that she had given me , my brother started arguing with me ,they started telling me the reactions of our so called relatives and society when they will hear the news, the reaction of the pados wali aunty – deko kaisi ladki hai, maa baap ki parwah nahi, mulli ban gai ladke ke liye , ku jane dia ise office , hawan karwao ghar mai kuch gadbad hai, He will convert you not now but years later, what about the children which religion will they follow, the same continued for atleast 2 days and at the end I had to loose my argument to them .(because my mother said -(hum tujse saare rishte tod dengay , mar jayegi tu humare liye , muh kala karwayegi).The boy was unaware of all of this .

        Our 6 months relationship came to an end in just 2 days. The boy started cursing me that I panicked and due to which it all ended. As it was all so early , we did not even decide what we will do, how we will break the news in front of our respective families, he was not professionally settled, jhe needs time , I should have kept my cool and should have told them about it , a year later when he will become something and could stand on his own feet (he is currently earning 30K pm) which is not sufficient for us – as per my parents. till then I should have denied for marriage and should have rejected the marriage proposals that were coming my way.

        Now, we have officially broken up, but still we chat , we cry , I curse myself for not handling the situation well. for not standing by him as promised , for not giving time to us , and specially to him . I am GUILTY every second that i pass.

        I need your suggestions as to what should we do ?? We love each other . He said he will never convert me , we will marry according to the special marriage act. Both religions will be equally respected, Children will be given both moral values and sanskar of both the religion, no burkha. May be all of the above are fake promises or may be true , I don’t know what god has written for both of us, All I know is we want everyone to be happy including both of us.

        Please suggest…

        Waiting for your valuable feedback and suggestions.

        Take care.

        anyonomus30 June 11, 2015 at 2:00 PM | Reply
        adding to it :

        Q1. Should we continue talking to each other?
        Q2. should we secretly again date each other, will face the consequences together?
        Q3. Should we give up?

        I don’t want to get married to anyone except him, I was a religious person, now i don’t believe in God. I hate my family for doing this to me, for not understanding me . for not giving me a chance to prove that love is above religion.
        This pain within me is killing me day by day. I don’t want anyone.

    2. Thanks Krithika, for being positive, as I am Muslim and I have a relationship with Hindu girl last 5 years, and I am staying abroad last 3 years and before 8 months ago she got married her family pressure, without knowing me anything, now I back to India and apply for marry on special marriage act and she left her house for marry with me, after applied court marriage then she tell me what is happened with her.

      What is presented here?

      But still I love her and I marry with her whatever situation is coming on my way I never leave my love.

      So please stop this Hindu- Muslim nonsense thinking if you love you have to accept all situation whatever is it. If you have no guards then quit and back to home and stay like accha papa-mummy ki acchi beti yea beta.

      1. Krithika Ayyagari | Reply

        I am sure about the country you were staying,when you went ‘abroad’ ,by your expressions 🙂 Obviously you are one of them,who believe in, love being blind and something that knows no boundaries.Yes,to some extent you are right,because you are a ‘blind’ follower of Islam.

        “So please stop this Hindu- Muslim nonsense” =>Why do you think people will believe in your story or your so called ‘conclusion'(with ‘so’) ????

        Glad to find your English so ‘unfortunately impenetrable’ !!

        It will be better if you do not use your 1400 gms unnecessarily 🙂

        sincerely,
        Krithika

        1. Krithika, i cant express my delight and how much i have enjoyed over the humor and sarcasm. Quite Brilliant !

          It is quite evident that all you people over this entire page , crying out loud, sobbing , getting freaked out or believing and taking advise from this quack faceless counselor, no nothing about love and have no right to claims or even mention that you are in love with anyone. because if you get intrigued by the “BULLSHIT” mentioned here.

          Every Religion has its believe, its all on how you interpret. All you people who claim have read Quran ( any translation), it is quite evident from your allegations that you have got it all wrong , I suggest you get a tutor to understand the real meaning and course of events which took place, hence those preaching. I have studied the Bhagwat Geeta and the Bible, and such similar holy books, and without a tutor or a mentor you would get it all wrong.

          for example –
          The Mahabharata, if read without a tutor, will clearly demonstrate to an outsider, that it is a tale of manipulation and politics , where one god is instigating events to disturb family ties ending in war leaving many to die, including the very own children.
          Now would it be write to generalize and categorize all Krishna worshiper or Hindus – as Manipulators ? Similarly, the RAMAYANA, the VEDAS etc.

          The Story of Jesus – he was the one who offered the red grape wine to all his followers when he announced his plan to take over Jerusalem – Now would it be wise for us to think and comment on the character of Jesus, making and keeping his followers drunk to believe and follow him blindly .

          The End of a Parsi – Left for the birds to feed and the remains burned at their fire temple . Would it be wise for us to think of their GOD to be unkind not to accept back his children but be fed to the birds .

          Every Religion has their own ways and customs, for an outsider it is only a matter of perspective.

          All them suggestions and comments and degrading peoples views and constant insult of ones religion clearly indicates a personal vendetta and the sickness of your mind, called Schizophrenia. you need attention. Medical Help.

          Also a suggestion, i read the responses by people and the impact you are having on peoples minds …. Impressive …. and your brilliant suggestion on how they should get married with the same caste . You GUYS seem to be on a mission to save your religion . What do we call it …….. JIHAD, i suppose . WHY DON’T YOU GUYS ALSO MENTION ABOUT ISSUES ON SAME CASTE MARRIAGES AND CRITICIZE YOUR OWN KIND TOO . Then I am sure people will not marry either Muslim or their own kind …. Lets all get together and abolish this norm and custom called MARRIAGE !
          YOU GUYS ARE NO MORE TO ME THAN HITLER , LADEN or any such of them . THEY HAD A BELIEVE AND MADE ALL FOLLOW IT AND MILLIONS LOST LIVES FOR THEIR SELF SATISFACTION . YOU GUYS ARE NO DIFFERENT , READING YOUR POSTS AND COMMENTS , MILLIONS ARE STILL SUFFERING.

          I am writing this stupid post or even commenting on your blasphemy
          is because your page has cost me my future and has shattered my dreams . Not that i am not with my Love one any more , I am still very much with her. but she chose a pre nup over the faith in me … brilliant decision by her , you suppose SRIOOO / KRITHIKA or who ever you SOBs’ are ………. I MADE THAT SUGGESTION . I TOOK HER TO THE LAWYER …. I ADDED POINTS FOR HER SAFE FUTURE which she could not even recollect . and guess what i told her …… once the document is signed and sealed . make it your husband …ask it to love you back .

          LASTLY ! PLEASE PEOPLE GET A LIFE , RATHER THAN READING TO SOME FACELESS , SENSELESS BABOONS.

          REGARDS & FUCK YOU !

    3. Dear Akansha, he is fooling. He is making these false promises only to betray you later. A Muslim can’t even think of leaving religion. Don’t waste your life. There are plenty of non-Muslim men out there. There are hundreds of testimonies of non-Muslims who have ruined their lives by marrying Muslims. You will be a prisoner in your in-laws home.

  10. Hi
    I am in love with a Muslim guy.We are in relation for 6 years….For once he never asked me to convert…..because he says love is unconditional……
    He himself does not prefer such religious differences..I dont think he is lying…atleast its not possible to continuously pretend for years………

    I am sure in the coming years religions differences will slowly and steadily fade into the background…..and mutual love & respect shall prevail!

    1. Krithika Ayyagari | Reply

      Ms/Mrs D,

      Your confidence is seriously funny and innocent !! 😀 meet me after 10 years(ie. after 16 years of your relationship) ,in this blog itself…….I will be glad to know more about your ‘theory of peaceful coexistence’ ,then 🙂

      Krithika

    2. @D
      He will tell you convert after marriage. If you think that religion can fade from a Muslim mind, then you are living in a fool’s paradise. There is no respect for women in Islam. You will be his child-bearing incubator.

  11. hi,

    i am in love wth muslim boy.i really got confused after go through all the posts ..ALready he told that me to covert into muslim.after then only marriage will happen to us.Moreover he say that i should not wear bindi,i should wear burkha,i should learn arabic etc..now i really very confused..but he is really a good person..he always take care about me…He also said he wont convert into as hindu but he forcing me to convert as muslim….But what i feel now ,i can be happy or not ,after i converted into muslim …there are lot of questions asking myself about converting into islamic religion..Kindly anyone tell me good idea .

    1. Hello priya (if that is your name) …..

      You can get a good idea yourself if you can keep away your emotions and those idealistic views developed from watching Bollywood. Real life is not ‘reel’ life.

      First, how much you know about Islam ?

      You wrote, ‘ALready he told that me to covert into muslim.after then only marriage will happen to us.Moreover he say that i should not wear bindi,i should wear burkha,i should learn arabic etc’………

      Even after all this if you say you are confused, and insist that he is a good guy, I guess even God, if he exists, can not help humanity.

      Ofcourse, he will take care of you like people take care of their dogs and their cattle.

      He is so clear about what he wants. Serving Islamic goal through expansion.

      He is imposing a humiliation on you just like Islam obligates Muslims to impose humiliation upon all non-Muslims.

      According to Islam, a Muslim man can marry Christian and Jewish women, while Muslim women can not marry men from other faiths. Its one way traffic.

      Islam also allows Muslim men to keep countless women as sex slaves; normally it is women from other faiths who are taken as sex slaves. With out conversion, Hindu women marrying Muslim men will only fall under this category. Thats what Muslims think even if women think they are married.

      If you convert to Islam, then you will lose many rights as, according to Indian constitution, courts can not interfere in Muslim personal laws i.e. he can divorce you through triple talaq, you will not have any right over custody of children or he can take 3 more wives, and in all this you can do nothing. No court can come to your rescue.

      If you feel you can live with out any conscience or without any connection to your past or without any sense of morality, you can go ahead.

      You will raise kids who will be full blooded Muslims, meaning they come to hate everything that is not Islamic WHICH INCLUDES YOUR OWN PAST AND VERY LIFE OF YOUR PARENTS, and will join Jihad and destroy your ancestral religion one day, like it happened in past.

      Tell me this : If he is not pretending to even respect what you are, how can you believe in anything he says ? He is a monster. Love is animalistic. Besides gratification of basic needs, he is satisfying his ego, due to his belief of Islamic supremacism, and realizing hatred towards your faith through you. You are the vehicle. And it is your decision.

      Even from moral perspective, with or without conversion, its better for you and your parents if you stay away from him.

      1. I need to clear a doubt about interfaith marriage..shall i marry a muslim man through any act without changing my own religion..because i am not interest to covert as muslim..first i said ok to convert ,now iam not interested.what is the solution to marry a muslim boy as a hindu girl.After marriage i would like to live a hindu girl..I dont lose my religion because of love..

        1. He has honestly told you to convert, but still you are not understanding. Your kids would have to be Muslims. There is no future in this relationship. You will get hurt if you leave him, but you will be devastated if you went ahead with marrying him. There are plenty of articles on this issue by ex-Muslim Ali Sina. Leave him and marry a Hindu.

    2. i am also married to muslim guy…bt what I feel IS …ALL R Same….they all will end up to same thing…putting restrictions and taking ur identity away…so i would suggest please do according to your parents..it will hurt initially but it will be good for you…

      1. Krithika Ayyagari | Reply

        Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

        Hope Hindu girls read these and learn 🙂

        Krithika

  12. I am loving a Muslim guy and i am a Hindu girl but now because of all your comments iam getting more fear and i am more confused now what should i do… he loves me more and he tells that he cant be without me and he will die without me..by reading these am getting cry by thinking of my life please any one help me what should i do now… please say any solution to me and my life…

    1. Krithika Ayyagari | Reply

      Hey Shalini,

      Look,Love can be defined in three ways…when,1)you love someone ;2)you are in love with someone ..;and we all know the 3rd one…….but in whatever you do,please make sure that you do not repent in future for whatever you do at present.In case,you are in love with a Muslim guy,ask him whether he will be converting to Hinduism after marriage or you have to convert to Islam??…then,you will understand how he loves you….!!
      There is no confusion,these things are very clear;if you read the posts on this blog(yes,including comments as you mentioned) ,you will be able to see the real face of Islam.
      If you can look through the secular media and try and understand the reasons behind,you will learn what ‘Hindu girl-Muslim guy’ marriages are all about.

      Don’t panic,help yourself……follow your mind,not heart 🙂

      sincerely,
      Krithika

    2. You will only cry for few hours or perhaps days if you leave him, but if you marry him, you will cry for life. Which option is better? Search for articles by non-Muslim women who have married Muslim men. Their lives have been turned to hell.

  13. To anyone who might read this in the future…

    I love a woman who is not religious at all and neither am I. Me and her consider ourselves agnostic (because who can really know the truth). Her family is hindu, and mine are muslim. We love each other despite our religious backgrounds, why? Because of LOVE. We truly, truly love each other. It is this love that has led me to looking for other stories of how people convinced their families to stop being so close-minded and accept that people will find love outside of their religion.

    It is no longer necessary for a man or woman to ask his parents to find him/her a partner and there is NOTHING wrong with that. People say arranged marriages work out better, but they do not, they work out just the same as love marriages. My own aunt gets abused verbally, mentally, and physically by her husband and they are both muslim. Why does she stick around? Because in our religion and culture, a divorced woman has no future. She is a FAILURE. So she would rather put up with him then end the unhealthy relationship.

    In this day and age, you do not need to force your self to be put down by all those around you. You can move on, you can be with the person you want to be because in the end EVERYONE who says you shouldn’t do this will die.

    So when you get old, would you be happy knowing you PUT UP with someone because of what OTHERS will think, or that you are HAPPY with your own choice no matter what other people think.

    Love and peace is all we ask for as human beings. It is religion that puts the rules and regulations on us. It is religion that says don’t do this and don’t do that. As a HUMAN BEING i have the right to love. As a HUMAN BEING I have the right to marry who i want to SPEND THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH.

    I hope anyone reading this in the future will see that you are the one who should make your own choices bad or good, and if they turn out bad, then do something about it.

    I hope that i too find a way to convince my parents to open their eyes.

    There is no religion for love.

    1. Do you condemn Muhammad for fighting kuffar?

      Bukhari (8:387) – “Allah’s Apostle said, ‘I have been ordered to fight the people till they say: ‘None has the right to be worshipped but Allah.’ And if they say so, pray like our prayers, face our Qibla and slaughter as we slaughter, then their blood and property will be sacred to us and we will not interfere with them except legally and their reckoning will be with Allah.'”

  14. hey…. i hv a boy frnd who is muslim…. and promising me dat he will nt force me to do anythng dat i dnt want to… i hv read all the posts… and i m vry confusd…. what should i do??????

    1. ‘……and promising me dat he will nt force me to do anythng dat i dnt want to……’

      Thats how everything starts.

      Thats what they wrote in those posts.

      ‘… and i m vry confusd…’

      I understand.

    2. Just search for article written by non-Muslim women victim of marriage with Muslims. You will know what Islam will do to you. He will initially tell you nice things, but once you marry, you will have no option but to be his slave.

  15. watever stated above iz al fake & lies abut islam..itz all because of some persons hatred feelin for islam..want 2 knw abut islam dan read quran ..check out http://www.irf.net

    1. IRF spreads lies about Islam. Read Ali Sina’s website to know the truth about Islam.

  16. After reading all thr cases of muslim men making life hell for their wives i feel ashamed as those are the people who defame a religion as pure as Islam. I feel really sorry for all those ladies who had to suffer and am glad for those who got freedom through divorce. But you all must see that before anything else they were bad human beings. A true muslim man shall never mistreat his wife rather should always takecare and protect her. If he does not do so he is not a true muslim too. Islam does not permit practices such as Wife beating, terrorism etc. Muslims who indulge in these activities are a disgrace to the community and hence all nom muslims should realise that it is those certain People doing those wrong deeds and not muslims at large and it is the characters of those people which should be blamed and not Islam.

    1. Oh…please. How do you do it i.e. telling lies so blatantly ? Or is it that you know nothing about Islam ! When Islam allows wife beating (!) you say that it does not allow. When Islam itself preaches terrorism aka Jihad you say that Islam does not permit it.

      Many Hindu girls fall prey to Muslim men because they equally think Islam is like every other religion with influences of Bollywood dominating their thinking, with emotions ruling them. But it their life and it is their decision.

      Those girls suffered because they equally believed what you are saying about Islam with out ever checking. Not that they have the capacity to find out any truth about Islam as people rarely correct their false views.

    2. Quran allows wife-beating 4:34 and 38:44. Muhammad too punched Aisha. I think Allah and Muhammad were defaming Islam.

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